Do We Control Our Fortunes?

Aug 29, 2012 by

Ronald Reagan portrait

Can you name the only State not to vote Reagan/Bush in 1984?

During Ronald Reagan’s 1976 Presidential campaign, the actor described in a speech a “welfare queen” from Chicago’s South Side. According to the New York Times, Reagan said this about the woman:

“She has eighty names, thirty addresses, twelve Social Security cards and is collecting veteran’s benefits on four non-existing deceased husbands. And she is collecting Social Security on her cards. She’s got Medicaid, getting food stamps, and she is collecting welfare under each of her names. Her tax-free cash income is over $150,000.”

Though presented by Reagan as an accounting of a factual case, he never named the woman, and no researcher was able to find a case of welfare fraud in the Chicago area consistent with Reagan’s “facts.”

Fraud Is One Thing—Lifestyle Choice Is Another

Though evidently a fiction, Reagan’s welfare queen undeniably touched a raw nerve for many Americans. I’m not sure though that those who identified with The Gipper’s sentiment were incensed about welfare fraud. My guess—and it is only a guess—is that Reaganites, and many Americans today, were and are upset by their perception of chronic dependency of, shall we say, a certain segment of society, on “the welfare state” for their subsistence. In other words, I believe many Americans resent and oppose social supports because they believe such a system—generically, if ignorantly, referred to as “welfare”—enables a lifestyle choice of dependence, laziness, and taxpayer burden.

Do People Choose Success?

Necessarily underlying the sentiment outlined in the previous paragraph is this belief: By and large, people make their own fortunes. In America, people who work hard, are responsible, and keep their noses clean will succeed. In contrast, people who rely on “handouts” and lack the skills or responsibility to win and hold a good job will never succeed.

My question for you: What do you believe? Is hard work, responsibility, and staying out of trouble a near guarantee of success in America? Said differently, by and large, are people who fail to succeed likely just too lazy or irresponsible to take advantage of what the American economy has to offer? To help you decide where you stand, here are a couple thought problems.

Joe and Phil

Joe is born into a low-income family. Because of the family’s limited resources and education, his nutrition and healthcare as an infant and child are poor. Both of his parents work full-time (but earn minimum wage), so Joe’s often cared for by his 10 and 14-year old siblings, as best they know how. When Joe starts school, he goes to a nearby public school, along with kids of similar backgrounds. Gangs dominate Joe’s neighborhood so he’s not allowed to play outside at his home or go to a park. Though his parents work hard and do their best to make ends meet, financial stresses prevent the family from spending money on anything but the essentials.

Phil is born into an upper middle class family. His mother earns a great income as a CPA firm partner, so mainly his stay-at-home Dad rears Phil. From birth, Phil enjoys his own bedroom in the home, and lacks for nothing—books, video games, computers, and so on. He attends private school from kindergarten through grade 12. His safe neighborhood has many families with kids Phil’s age, and all enjoy recreating in each other’s spacious yards and on nearby sport courts and fields. Phil’s Dad coaches soccer, and Phil loves and excels at the game. As an adolescent, Phil’s parents pay for tennis and piano lessons for him, as he has a talent for both.

Question: Assume Joe and Phil, at age 18, are equally hardworking, responsible, ambitious, and conscientious. Do you think Joe and Phil are equally likely to succeed in life? Please elaborate.

Mary and Stephanie

Mary makes a huge adolescent mistake and gets pregnant at age 17. The father disappears, and apparently no authority exists to force the father to take on some responsibility for his child. With her parents’ help, Mary finishes high school. But her parents have health issues and are of modest financial means, so Mary becomes a full-time parent after she graduates. She’s smart and motivated and would like to work, but would earn little with her skills and education after netting out the cost of daycare. So she joins the welfare rolls and uses a food bank to supplement her food stamp allocation to meet her and her baby’s nutritional needs. She of course can’t afford private health insurance, so Mary depends on free clinics and Medicaid for her and her child’s needs. She’s able barely to cover her needs, as long as she continues to live in her parents’ home with her child.

Stephanie makes a huge adolescent mistake and gets pregnant at age 17. The father takes responsibility and vows to share to be a good father. Both the father’s and Stephanie’s parents are well off and aim to help their kids and grandkids as much as possible.

Question: Assume Mary and Stephanie, at age 18, are equally hardworking, responsible, ambitious, and conscientious. Do you think Mary and Stephanie are equally likely to succeed in life? Please elaborate. Extra credit: Do you think the two babies are equally likely to succeed in life?

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  • AverageJoe

    Great questions, Kurt. I often wonder where I’d be now if I’d been born in the mountains of Pakistan instead of in the United States. How would things be different? What would I believe?

  • William_Drop_Dead_Money

    I was Joe. My mother told me the only way I’d escape the trap is getting an education, and the only way I’d get one is with a scholarship, for which I needed good grades. Not believing her (like any adolescent) I checked it out and it was true. So I studied my tail off, endured unpopularity in high school, got the scholarship and (touch wood) have never been forced back into that situation again. I set myself the goal of becoming a CEO before age 30 (that sounded soooooo old to me back then) and I reached the goal. “Success in life” is a nebulous concept, but I’m content, if that’s a measure. I know of several kids of wealthy parents who grew up used to the easy life. Some made it, some didn’t.

    In the end I think when we turn 18 we make decisions, and those decisions set the course for our lives. Along the way we are offered some opportunities and denied others. We make some good decisions and some bad decisions. If we make more good decisions than bad ones, and if the big decisions are good ones, we have a better shot at good outcomes.

    One thing you didn’t mention is the concept that many of the good decisions involve sacrifice. It might take many forms, but most of the successful people I read about made sacrifices. Those who opt for the easy option seldom succeed.

    Nothing is guaranteed, however. Not even if everything goes our way. Just oogle August Busch IV (Budweiser), there’s a very sad BusinessWeek
    article about him.

  • frugalportland

    Having money is not the only thing that determines success. But boy, it sure doesn’t hurt!

  • Flaag

    You ask the wrong question, it’s hypothetical without any practical value.
    Instead you should ask “what’s the difference between success and failure”.

    • http://mymoneycounselor.com/ Kurt Fischer

      Hey Flaag, guess what: It’s my blog–I can ask whatever questions I want.

  • http://twitter.com/familymoneyblog John Preston

    In the cases you listed, of course they don’t have the same opportunity, but you kind of loaded that way. For example:
    Jessie’s parents live in a poor neighborhood in the city. She is one of 8 children and lives with her mother and grandmother. Jessie had a child at age 16. It’s been a big challenge for her entire family, but her matriachs and siblings help watch the children so Jessie can get a GED. The family hopes to get Jessie into community college.
    Pam grew up with everything. She had a nice house, nice clothes and went to a nice school. The only thing she never had was the attention of both working parents were are frequently vacant since they are both doctors. Pam wanted attention as a teenager so she lived a risky life, which landed her with a child at age 16. Furious, her parents kicked her out of the house.
    Who has a better chance of success? Jessie or Pam? And does socioeconomcs or parental support have more to do with it? And does parental support matter, because I loaded it that way?
    Success is hard to measure, but I do know that regardless of class, specific choices often lead to failure. Having a child at a young age, regardless of the class of parent, tends to lead to poverty. Dropping out of high school, regardless of class, tends to lead to poverty. The only difference in classes is that these occurances are less common with socio-economics.

  • http://twitter.com/prairieecothrif Miss T

    I think lifestyle, expectation, and upbringing have a lot to do with it. We are often a product of our surroundings and manage things how we have seen them be managed. What we consider reasonable in the North America varies drastically with someone living in Africa. The priorities are not even close to one another.

  • http://www.thirtysixmonths.com Marissa

    I am a huge believer in education and the doors that it can open for you, that being said, no, both were not given the same breaks thus you see different outcomes. In regards to the kids, I think it depends on they are raised. Yes, Mary’s child will have to work harder, but the possibility is still there for him to succeed.

  • http://mymoneycounselor.com/ Kurt Fischer

    One of the points I tried to make in this post is that I think we all, though to different degrees, harbor stereotypes about individuals who are “on welfare” or poor. In sum, we may assume they’re lazy, stupid, dishonest, and unmotivated. While the stereotype may apply in some cases, I think the situation is almost always far more complex than we likely realize, and the individual may have already persevered through–and may continue to face, as in the case of Mary–circumstances that would crush many of us. Also, I think many of us smugly attribute our success 100% to our cleverness and hard work, when the reality is that much of our success may be due to our parents’ sacrifices and good parenting skills. My thoughts on the questions I posed? To me it’s clear that Joe and Mary will have to be more creative, work harder, and make few mistakes to achieve the same level of success to which Phil and Stephanie may easily breeze. And though they’ll have overcome far more obstacles to reach the same place, they’ll have earned no additional respect, except perhaps from those who know their entire story.

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